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H.L.Mencken has rightly defined love as war, ‘easy to begin but very hard to stop.’ The heart beats 10x faster as soon as we hear the words ‘We need to talk.’ The sudden rush of emotions when you find out that your partner either needs a divorce or is ditching you. Or even worse, the shocking news of a death can make you question your entire existence. It’s a terrible feeling to see a relationship die in front of you, and it is even more difficult to live life feeling the absence of that magical connection that was so close to your heart. But if you have the will power, getting over someone is possible.

It is challenging to get over a breakup, especially if you haven’t initiated it. But if Chandler Bing can do it, so can you, you just need to find the recovery stages that will help you walk past the difficult period. Who knows a Monica is waiting for you at the end of the relationship with Kathy. These are some steps that will help you bring back the happiness in your life. 

• Accept the end

The first step to get over someone is always accepting the end of the relationship. It may be difficult but that is the truth. The sooner one understands the better for him or her. All you can now do about the past is to analyze the relationship, if it ended due to the death of love, then see where things went wrong. And make sure you do not get into a similar troublesome relationship again.

• Endurance

The emptiness that follows after a relationship exits from your life is a difficult stage to handle. But don’t make the pain unbearable for you. Cry it out for once and finish it. Avoid blame games as they do not result in anything. Stay away from anything that reminds you of it for a while till you are strong enough to not get emotional about it. 

• Stop stalking them over social media.

Social media helps us keep a tab of what is happening in people’s lives that we know. But using this platform to stalk your ex can harm your mental health. Unfollow your ex’s accounts as that will help you detach emotionally from the past relationship.

• Do not isolate yourself from friends. 

However painful it may be, do not avoid your friends. They can always help you get out of adverse situations. Spending time with friends can distract you from other negative things. Talking to them can also help you clear your mind and gain confidence again in yourself.

• Do things that you love more than anything else in this world.

However life is, there are always somethings that are capable of bringing a smile on your face. Hobbies and activities like cooking, pottery, painting or traveling can help you regain the momentum of your life. Invest your energy into positive outputs. 

• Do not lose faith over the whole concept of love. 

However difficult getting over someone may be, keep the belief alive of finding someone who will fill your empty heart with happiness again. Take time, though, but don’t block the roads to your heart.